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As we continue to live through these unsettled times, I have been asked through lived circumstance to work with some core issues of grief, belonging, and acceptance. Without going into a great deal of unnecessary detail, based on my performance at work, I had an expectation that I would be able to retain my position, a position that I enjoyed and felt I was good at. When that did not work out, and not because of any known shortcomings on my part, I experienced a very definite and pronounced period of grief and reassessment.
Most all of us experience disappointment with our jobs, our relationships, our situations at one time or another in our lives. Some of those disappointments are minor and very temporary bumps in an otherwise smooth life’s journey. However, once in a while a loss occurs that sets us back, that impacts our heart, our world so strongly, it literally hurts.
Living in Attunement has shown me another way to navigate loss. I believe it is human nature to avoid loss and to avoid conflict. I think that many of our world’s woes and fearfulness is connected to unresolved grief. I found that once hit, and I use that word of violent force intentionally, with loss, I had more choices through my living at the crossover point than the world generally has to offer.
Once faced with the emotional impact of loss, and my work situation was compounded by the death of a sibling, all of this happening within a two-week period, I sat in Attunement and held my heart in love. I surrounded all of the emotional turmoil in a loving surround, and I “heard” the necessity to lean into my grief. I found that by allowing the emotion to wash through me, especially while holding myself in Attunement, that the intensity of the hurt was softened.
This does not mean that by the next Tuesday, or whatever arbitrary date one might choose, I was all better and did no longer grieve. Far from it. I saw that by leaning into loss, wrapping my grief in radiant love and Attunement, that I could naturally allow it to find completion in a process that is governed by its own timeline.
As I continued healing through Attunement, I began to see that the source of my grief, aside from the loss of my sister, was an insecurity in regard to my sense of belonging. Another avenue of Attunement opened up and continued healing ensued. I began to understand that even though my head says it is not attached to any particular outcome, letting go, truly letting go, is a daily endeavor and an act of both courage and strength.
By living in and sharing Attunement in the Unified Field, we are coming together to hold each other and our world in a way that will continue to open avenues of healing and growth. Let love radiate! Share Attunement and Bless the World.
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Thank you, Erin, for sharing your experiences of grief. I so appreciate your courage and willingness to sit with grief, resisting the temptation to ‘just keep busy’ or to ‘be strong for others.’ It takes guts and strength to address the elephant in the room, the broken heart, the at times overwhelming grief.
And what a blessing Attunement is! When my daughter’s long time boyfriend suddenly died a few years ago, she said sharing attunements were what first brought the shattered pieces of her heart together and grounded her to be able to move forward, even just one day at a time.
There’s a saying that shared joy is twice the joy and shared sorrow is half the sorrow. Thank you for sharing yours.
Erin thank you so much for your touching and insightful post. It moved me deeply. I’m sorry you’ve experienced such losses. Holding one’s heart in attunement while feeling deeply into the grief is such a gift and I appreciate your insight on that.
Your thoughts on belonging also resonated deeply with me. Feeling a sense of belonging makes such a difference. I think we probably all work with the insecurity of belonging at different points in our lives. Sending you love and blessings as you continue to heal and explore new possibilities.
Your words and experience provide a beacon for others. In facing my own profound loss of my husband (over 10 years ago now), I wrote:
“All of us have some degree of experience with grief. I came to the realization that grief is the act of cauterizing the wound. It allows us to live while enduring such depth of pain.” After that cauterization comes the daily, unrelenting work of weaving grief into the creative life I live in this realm. Grief does not define my life, but it further enhances the colors I already know.
Your words always inspire me. There are so many forms and variations to loss. The blessing is that Attunement allows us a way to open our heart and allow healing. When I look back at my life and remember the times of loss, I now witness my personal growth and actual gratitude for everything that enters my space. Certainly now always welcomed but eventually it becomes clear if you continue to accept what has happened and move forward from that point. Again, thank you so much for sharing your experiences. You are a beautiful spirit and and a true blessing to this world.
Thank you, Erin. What a blessing! “By living in and sharing Attunement in the Unified Field, we are coming together to hold each other and our world….” The influence of our coming together is then whatever is needed in our worlds as Love’s radiance does the Works. I appreciate your perfect words around grief and loss; they resonate in my own heart, having shared similar “lived circumstances” (what a great way to put it; and what else are we here for). When I first heard the concept of “leaning in to your grief” my first instinct was to reject it, because it felt like I was being invited to “wallow in it.” But that is anything but the fact. I have come to see the part it plays in the creative process we are here for, and you have put it so beautifully! I also love and share your acknowledging that “letting go, truly letting go, is a daily endeavor and an act of both courage and strength.” I find that as I acknowledge it I relax into it, into the flow of the current. And “the yoke is easy.” I am deeply grateful for this post.
Erin,
Thank you for your candor and clarity! Like you and innumerable others, I know through experience that grief is not something we “get over;” we just find a place to put it. Held in Attunement, the gifts of grief unfold.
Erin, my heart is with you as you navigate the loss of your sister and your job, two shocking, sudden changes, and being with yourself in love and acceptance of your experience. Thank you for sharing that and your wisdom.
I am in the process of completing my cycle of 12 years on an island in Maine, moving in the next two months or so to a town on the western slope of The Colorado Rocky Mountains. I have a rich life and good job here, yet love is calling me to a place with chosen family, where I do not yet have a place to live or work. I have quite a range of feelings as I navigate this unfolding cycle of change. Thank you for naming that of belonging, central to my process.
I appreciate this aperture into the desire for belonging in so many in our larger world, from people displaced from their homes all over the world to the heightened emotions as the US presidential election comes near.
I am grateful for the blessing and responsibility of belonging in this attunement community.
With love,
Jean
Thank you so much for your beautiful message. Soothed my heart. ♥️
In the depth of understanding I honor your grief journey in letting go in the power of Attunement as all is blessed to the glory of our King. I too lost my brother, my only
sibling. After the initial shock and outpouring of grief I sensed a deep peace. He was filled with the joy that characterized him . I had no desire to hold him, and was willing to let go…to let the Radiation work. As he blessed me by living he also lesser me within his leaving. I pray that for al.ost 87 years I have so lived and served that all others may see the Light that shines. Always.
It’s evident that you’ve navigated through profound grief and loss with strength and insight. Your experience reminds us that grief, in all its forms, is not just something to “get over” but a process to be honored and embraced.
Living in attunement, as you’ve described, offers a pathway to healing that is both gentle and powerful. How you’ve allowed yourself to lean into your grief, rather than resist it, is courageous and shows resilience. It’s a reminder that healing is not linear and that it’s okay to take the time needed to process our emotions fully.
Your words about belonging and the daily act of letting go resonate deeply and inspire me. May your continued practice of Attunement bring you peace, healing, and a deep sense of belonging. I don’t doubt that soon you’ll look back on this time as one of the greatest blessings of your life.
Let love radiate, indeed!
Thank you Erin,
I feel that the last 2 sentences you wrote serve as a safe wrap-around and context for all that you describe. I’m sure all of us need to care radiantly with what comes to us, and like you, know that as a result, world consciousness is blessed and brought nearer to the Light of Love.